9 Weeks to Sexy
Week 3 - The Mental Body
The Mental body is one of the pillars I refer to in my Body Temple Blueprint. We need a solid foundation first (which is what the 9 Weeks to Sexy is all about) so that which we build our body temple doesn’t crack and cause our Body Temple to Crumble.
1 of the 4 temples is the Mental Body Pillar.
Powerful questions to ponder:
How are my thoughts creating my reality?
Am I equally as conscious about what I consume mentally (what I read, watch, and conversations I engage with) as I am with what I consume physically. (nutrition)?
What thoughts do I need to have to align with what I want to create?
The mental body consists of:
The Intellect - What we seek to learn, or a practice of repeating. We have a draw to know more, or experience the outcome of the knowledge. If you desire to experience or feel confident, vibrant, and juicy in your body, what do you need to learn about being that? (ie: how to improve your digestion or nutritional knowledge or what habits do I need to cultivate to align with the trajectory of my outcome - ie: schedule workouts, clean out my wardrobe, hire a coach)
Curiosity - The intellect responds best when we have a desire to learn. Curiosity IS that driver. You had a curiosity about feeling more sexy in your body, which is what caused you to learn more about this course and ultimately ACT to move into the direction of your desire (to feel/experience MORE Sexy). You will have more success in creating the desired outcome if you follow a path of curiosity. If you are not curious about how your body works, then you are not going to be motivated to ACT in what you learn about your biology. You may be better to choose a path of aligning your thoughts to create your reality, thus explore that avenue to align with your desired goal.
- Review your What Sexy Means to you Worksheets, and look at what you put down for What you want to embody but do not feel that you do (at all or fully) and get curious about what avenue you would explore in getting the result.
ie: : movement through strength training, dance, nature… or all three!
: learning about fermenting for better digestion or eating foods that are local or ancestral to your ethnicity or nationality.
: Exploring your infradian rhythm as a way of aligning with your feminine cycle (mentrural and or moon cycle) to create more vibrancy in your body.
What we control, and where we really start to create our reality, is in how we perceive/interpret/think about the events in our life that generate our feelings about those events, and therefore how we respond with our behavior. No one can choose your thoughts or actions; those are yours alone.
Your thoughts are linked to your emotions AND to the physical experiences in your body. These thoughts also create lenses through which you see yourself, others and most everything in your life. Lenses can become clouded with thought and do not allow you to observe without attachment, aversion or desire to a certain outcome.
These thoughts (or limiting beliefs) are linked to the STORY that you have about who you are in the world and are STRONGLY linked to past experiences. You are the main character in your story and you write the script based on your self-concept that is largely self-created.
Last week, in the "Cutting The Cord" exercise, you learned that your past and the story you told yourself about it created a false belief about who you think you are BECAUSE of the negative experience.
Now that you are AWARE of how this happens, today you are going to OBSERVE how those beliefs can creep in, and expose them so that they do not run your life unconsciously. This is often referred to as being the witness of your life. You cannot heal or transform what you cannot SEE.
And it's hard to see properly when you are in the thick of it... that's why it is imperative to learn how to step outside of the "situation" and witness what is going on from an non-emotional detached point of view.
This is about SEEING or OBSERVING without judgement.
When you suspend judgement and detached emotionally from what you are seeing, you can allow the unconscious pattern to emerge and be seen for what it is.
Poof!
The unconscious pattern can no longer run your life. Because you can see it for what it is... you take away its power. Now that this pattern has been brought to your awareness, it is your duty (and practice) to take out the trash, so to speak.
In the video above I talk about the Exercise below.
EXERCISE -- Notice what you are noticing.
STEP 1:
Notice WHEN you have a negative thought about yourself.
STEP 2:
Don’t judge it or yourself.
Notice where the thought comes from (one of the cracks in the mirror). Remember, this noticing comes from the perspective of being the witness.
The ability to observe yourself in your life from a detached perspective and by detached I mean non-emotional. You still may feel emotion but rather than being the one that is having the emotion, you are witnessing that you are the one having the emotion. This is a filtering of sorts.
All thoughts filter through the OBSERVER OR WITNESS part of you. The part of you that is not caught in the drama of your life.
The part of you that is awake.
Make sense?
This takes practice. Don't worry if you're not perfect at it yet.
Just keep going through the two steps and eventually this will become a habit and occur automatically.
So for today as often as possible stop and notice what you are noticing. What are you noticing about yourself, your partner, your relationship, other people, the environment, the stories you tell yourself about your past, the stories you are creating, the fear and worry about what may happen in the future, etc.
Notice all of it.
Give yourself permission to JUST notice. When you begin to get caught up in thought, come back to noticing (being the witness). Nothing is right or wrong, good or bad.
Just observe.
Notice your internal dialogue how you talk to yourself.
Notice how you judge yourself and others.
How can you respect your body unless you also respect others? It’s time to collectively decide to respect every shape and size and honor every physique.
Fat-shaming, skinny-shaming, tall-shaming, short-shaming, sexy shaming. It all needs to end… today!
By pointing out flaw in others, you are simply projecting your own insecurities and fault finding in others so you don't have to face your own shame. When you begin to see others as the beautiful people they are, you will have a much easier time loving who you are.
For today, do not entertain the inner dialogue.
If your mind was your room mate you would have kicked them out a long time ago for being so mean!
It's time to start cultivating a positive mindset. The mindset that supports and uplifts the essence of who you are. The mindset that acknowledges your gifts, your assets, and talents.
It takes effort and practice to cultivate a healthy mindset. Remember start where you are and take small consistent steps every day.
What can you love about yourself today? Not "when" you achieve, accomplish, or let go of.
At night, before you go to bed, answer these three questions in your journal:
1) What did observing my thoughts teach me about mindset?
2) How did it feel to have permission to suspend judgment mind of what I was thinking?
3) List 3 positive thoughts to cultivate about my body.
When you feel ready repeat:
SEXY IS cultivating a positive mindset.
SEXY IS a state of mind.
ERASE the line that says "I THINK I am unattractive, therefore I am"
Clear the debris.
Use the tools.
Be the architect to build your life